Refresh your perspective and create a renewed sense of purpose following these guidelines.
Make an Appointment with Yourself
Do you keep a planner or calendar? Do you wake up to an alarm? Do you make plans with others? Many of us plan our time in relation to work, social and life commitments, yet in the hustle and bustle of our lives, we neglect committing to ourselves. Carving out me-time is key to your well-being. Me-time gives you the opportunity to reflect. Next time you are planning your day, week, month, and beyond, don’t forget to pencil yourself in too!
You may have made commitments to yourself at the beginning of the year. The transition to spring is the ideal time to check in and see what is transpiring. Do you need to change course? Are your commitments, desires, and dreams still in alignment with your actions? Be realistic and embrace radical honesty. When you are clear in yourself, you can move forward with purpose.
Declutter Your Life
It’s hard to reflect inward and move ahead with purpose when you are surrounded by clutter or filled with mental chatter that you just can’t shake. Declutter your space and simplify your routines. Practice meditation and mindfulness. Tap into your body with massage and movement and release what no longer serves you.
Change Your Perspective
If you are feeling stuck on uncertain, get moving! The longer days of spring invite us to be more active. Moving our bodies helps us shake off old energy and release negative thought patterns. I’ve been a long time advocate of getting outside for a walk in nature. If I am ever feeling stuck, a walk in the fresh air does me wonders.
You can also facilitate a perspective shift by changing your routine or embracing a new self-care ritual. Many people report feeling a renewed sense of purpose after a massage or a clearer mind after a facial.
Planting Seeds & Tending to New Growth
Once you have cleared out the clutter and affirmed your desires, spring into action! If you haven’t already, take time now to plant the seeds that will enable you to fulfil your desires. If your dreams have taken root already and your seeds are sprouting, be sure to nurture the new growth. Keep your personal “garden” healthy to enjoy the blooms and fruit later!
Enrich your everyday life by bringing your full presence to whatever you are doing. Activating your presence means tuning into yourself and focusing your energy and senses on the moment. You are showing up as an aware and mindful woman. When you stand in your full presence, you can roll with life’s ups and downs with greater ease. You can tune into your innate wisdom and tap into your intuition to guide you. It’s a comforting, yet freeing feeling!
I consider mindfulness to be an important part of self-care and I invite it into my life through a simple daily ritual.
Begin with a warm cup of herbal tea, dim the lights, turn off your phone and any other electronic distractions, and sit down. Light a beeswax tealight and watch the flame dance as you sip on your tea. Take deep breaths in-between. Empty your mind and tune into the flavours of your tea and the aroma of the beeswax in the air. What do you taste? What do you smell? What do you hear? What do you see? What are you feeling? Take a moment to acknowledge the herbs you are drinking and receive their benefits. This is your me-time and with each breath, bring your intention and focus on being in that moment.
In this process, you might find new energies and emotions bubbling to the surface. Don’t be afraid of giving these new feelings and thoughts some attention. They serve you and guide you.
When you finish your tea, take time to reflect on your experience and ease back into moving your body. It’s a good time to stretch and feel good about nurturing your mind, body and soul!
This ritual can be as long or as short as you want it to be, but the key is that you are taking the time to be in your full presence. When the weather is warmer, I love to practice a similar ritual sitting outside in my garden where I can tune into the beauty of nature.
Remember, practicing mindfulness and being present is a lifelong practice. We are never 100% present all of the time, but the more we can activate that state of being, the more it becomes our default.
Let this month be the Love Month where we honour ourselves by making choices that support self-love, self-care and self-worth! Notice how you feel when you carve out Me-Time as a act of self-love and self-appreciation.
What are you doing to celebrate?
Where in your life are the doors opening and where are you too busy knocking on the closed doors?
Last year, I started to notice how I was trying to create something with another that just wasn’t transpiring how I would have liked.. I was knocking on a door that just wasn’t opening very easily. It didn’t matter how much I desired it to be, I realized I was trying to force something that just wasn’t in alignment with me. Yes, I realized where I was trying to go was in a different resonance than with the other. I wasn’t resonating with this other person so we could not come together so easily.
As I came to terms with what was occurring, rather than trying to push my way or moving out of my alignment to meet the other, I stopped. I chose to sit with myself and surrender to what is; after I released my disappointment and attachment, I allowed it to do its course – acknowledging myself and truth and the truth of the other. I noticed that this acceptance of what is, gave me peace and I felt no need to place blame on the other or myself. I could look at them with eyes of love, knowing they were doing their best and so was I, we were both being authentic. It was a big revelation for me because so many times in the past, I held onto disappointments and stayed attached to what I desired leaving me feeling deep disappointment and frustration. It felt so wonderful to let go!
Days went by and I decided to notice which doors open easily in my life; who is energetically calling me and saying come on in, where do I feel ease, resonance and joy and which door were calling me to explore. Where could I fully show up and feel another or a situation moving with me, feel a mutual understanding. In the following days, I started to look at all areas of my life and truly take notice of which doors were not opening easily and choosing to move on to another path where the sun is shining, people are smiling and the door is wide open saying welcome.
Over the years, I have learned it is exciting to attend all the festivities happening around the holidays, but one must know oneself and how much is too much. The extroverts can be social every evening and love every moment of it. It energizes them. For the introverts like myself, I love people and connecting, but I know I have to space it out. Too much socializing and I feel overwhelmed. It has taken years for me to accept this part of myself and to listen to the inner voice that says “that’s enough; time to be quiet, regroup and replenish.” I try to listen and reel myself in before I completely exhaust myself. Wisdom has taught me to book a few festivities and leave room for spontaneity to rest or play!